Comments on: No children allowed http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/ Sun, 22 Jan 2012 23:56:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Rachel http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-117 Rachel Wed, 17 Aug 2011 16:45:32 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-117 I think the general etiquette (that I've been hearing) is you can have a no-kids wedding, but that no information about that goes on the actual invitation. So no "Adults Only" on the invite, etc. Instead, you address the invitation to the parents ONLY, and if someone responds back with their kids, you politely tell them that the invitation was excluding their children. That's what I'm planning on doing, but I can already hear the phone calls.. I think the general etiquette (that I’ve been hearing) is you can have a no-kids wedding, but that no information about that goes on the actual invitation. So no “Adults Only” on the invite, etc. Instead, you address the invitation to the parents ONLY, and if someone responds back with their kids, you politely tell them that the invitation was excluding their children. That’s what I’m planning on doing, but I can already hear the phone calls..

]]> By: Audrey http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-94 Audrey Sat, 16 Apr 2011 20:54:59 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-94 As a friend going to a wedding I would never dream of bringing my child unless asked to do so. As a family member going to a wedding where my son's entire family will be there I would find it rude and selfish if he were not invited. At it's true heart a wedding is a celebration of a joining of families, and a celebration of expansion of family. To not include a family member in a family occasion just because of age is disgusting and shows lack of morals. To all the brides and grooms- nothing in life is perfect, you're wedding day should be as close as possible, but a child is not going to ruin you're occasion. Cutting one person out of one day of your life may end up cutting many people out of your life for it's entirety. Be careful, mindful, and try not to be too wrapped up in perfection or you may forget what your wedding is really supposed to be about ( it's about you but the marriage is about so much more, family's kids included) As a friend going to a wedding I would never dream of bringing my child unless asked to do so. As a family member going to a wedding where my son’s entire family will be there I would find it rude and selfish if he were not invited. At it’s true heart a wedding is a celebration of a joining of families, and a celebration of expansion of family. To not include a family member in a family occasion just because of age is disgusting and shows lack of morals. To all the brides and grooms- nothing in life is perfect, you’re wedding day should be as close as possible, but a child is not going to ruin you’re occasion. Cutting one person out of one day of your life may end up cutting many people out of your life for it’s entirety. Be careful, mindful, and try not to be too wrapped up in perfection or you may forget what your wedding is really supposed to be about ( it’s about you but the marriage is about so much more, family’s kids included)

]]> By: JK http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-90 JK Sun, 06 Mar 2011 14:41:08 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-90 Our family has always included my brother's three children. Their mother would have been furious if we did not and we wanted them to be there. Now that these kids have grown up they do not want to include our children at their weddings. They say that it is because of the cost but they are paying for neighbors and high school friends. This does not seem fair. Our family has always included my brother’s three children. Their mother would have been furious if we did not and we wanted them to be there. Now that these kids have grown up they do not want to include our children at their weddings. They say that it is because of the cost but they are paying for neighbors and high school friends. This does not seem fair.

]]> By: AC http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-60 AC Sun, 26 Sep 2010 16:34:06 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-60 It's kind of a sticky subject. On one had, yes very young children can be disruptive. However, when I got married, my youngest sister was 4. Should she have not been allowed? My other sister had a nursing baby at the time who wouldn't take a bottle. She, her baby, and my 4 year old sister were all welcome and caused NO problems. Most parents know to remove their children if they get too rowdy. We wanted our wedding to be about family and welcomed all well-behaved children. We had a special children's activity area set up at our reception with coloring, crafts, kid-friendly food, and several responsible teenage girls to supervise. When my husband's brother got married, we had an 8 month old. He stayed with family during the wedding, then I had to drive 40 minutes to pick him up and 40 minutes back just so out-of-town relatives could see him at the reception. He would have been quiet through the ceremony. He would sit quietly through an hour of church every Sunday. It was such a pain in the butt. Plus, some family got mad at me at his reception because I missed so much of it to go pick up my son. Some people have very far away relatives that want to see the younger members of their family. And some parents can't leave their young children at home for 2 days while they attend a wedding. Are they supposed to leave their kids in the hotel room?Others are getting remarried and have young children from previous weddings. If you know your child won't sit still and act right, yes it's probably easier on the child to not attend. But, well-behaved and especially close relative children should be able to attend most weddings. If you're having a really fancy wedding and want parents, but not young children, come up with a place for the young kids. And consider how many of your relatives have young children when planning your wedding and reception. If you don't want the kids there, you might have to accept that you sister, sister-in-law, best friend, etc. might just not be able to attend. I'd rather have all my family there as none of my family. It’s kind of a sticky subject. On one had, yes very young children can be disruptive. However, when I got married, my youngest sister was 4. Should she have not been allowed? My other sister had a nursing baby at the time who wouldn’t take a bottle. She, her baby, and my 4 year old sister were all welcome and caused NO problems. Most parents know to remove their children if they get too rowdy. We wanted our wedding to be about family and welcomed all well-behaved children. We had a special children’s activity area set up at our reception with coloring, crafts, kid-friendly food, and several responsible teenage girls to supervise. When my husband’s brother got married, we had an 8 month old. He stayed with family during the wedding, then I had to drive 40 minutes to pick him up and 40 minutes back just so out-of-town relatives could see him at the reception. He would have been quiet through the ceremony. He would sit quietly through an hour of church every Sunday. It was such a pain in the butt. Plus, some family got mad at me at his reception because I missed so much of it to go pick up my son. Some people have very far away relatives that want to see the younger members of their family. And some parents can’t leave their young children at home for 2 days while they attend a wedding. Are they supposed to leave their kids in the hotel room?Others are getting remarried and have young children from previous weddings. If you know your child won’t sit still and act right, yes it’s probably easier on the child to not attend. But, well-behaved and especially close relative children should be able to attend most weddings. If you’re having a really fancy wedding and want parents, but not young children, come up with a place for the young kids. And consider how many of your relatives have young children when planning your wedding and reception. If you don’t want the kids there, you might have to accept that you sister, sister-in-law, best friend, etc. might just not be able to attend. I’d rather have all my family there as none of my family.

]]> By: sunshine http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-53 sunshine Thu, 29 Jul 2010 18:57:12 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-53 I think it is extremely rude and inconsiderate of parents who insist in bringing children to events in which there is a chance their children could be disruptive to others attending. It shows you don't care how it affects others around you at all. Since when you can't part with them for a few hours? I think it is extremely rude and inconsiderate of parents who insist in bringing children to events in which there is a chance their children could be disruptive to others attending. It shows you don’t care how it affects others around you at all. Since when you can’t part with them for a few hours?

]]> By: Shay Freeman, Master Bridal Consultant http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-36 Shay Freeman, Master Bridal Consultant Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:13:37 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-36 Weddings are not fun for young children. They don't want to sit still, be quiet, and not fidget -- they are young children. Parents would not take small children to a symphony, a movie, or a nice restaurant. Why? Because those are not places children enjoy- nor are they appreciated. If the child's names is on the inner envelope, they are invited, fidgets and all. If their name is not on the inner envelopes -- they are not invited, and the parents should respond accordingly. Weddings are not fun for young children. They don’t want to sit still, be quiet, and not fidget — they are young children. Parents would not take small children to a symphony, a movie, or a nice restaurant. Why? Because those are not places children enjoy- nor are they appreciated.

If the child’s names is on the inner envelope, they are invited, fidgets and all. If their name is not on the inner envelopes — they are not invited, and the parents should respond accordingly.

]]> By: A Bradley http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-34 A Bradley Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:11:48 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-34 We have no problem with kids but we are having an adult only reception. We have an area for the kids that were in the wedding in the hospitality suite with food and cartoons. Most caterers charge the same amount for kids...why pay $25-$40 when they will not eat all their food. Chicken fingers and/or pizza will do. Also I dont think its fair to the couple for parents to bring toddlers and babies to the wedding and cause unnecessary nosie and confusion. Please be considerate to the bride and groom. We have no problem with kids but we are having an adult only reception. We have an area for the kids that were in the wedding in the hospitality suite with food and cartoons. Most caterers charge the same amount for kids…why pay $25-$40 when they will not eat all their food. Chicken fingers and/or pizza will do. Also I dont think its fair to the couple for parents to bring toddlers and babies to the wedding and cause unnecessary nosie and confusion. Please be considerate to the bride and groom.

]]> By: CR http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-24 CR Wed, 03 Feb 2010 19:58:51 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-24 We are not allowing children at our event. I am still unsure of the wording that is polite for the invitations. We feel like our event is going to be one big celebration and that it would be a nice time for the parents to have a "date night". Most of the children that would come to the wedding, if invited, have very close relatives that would love to have the children for the evening. Also, since alcohol will be provided, we feel like it would be inappropriate for the child to have to sit in a cab without a car seat just because the parents had too much to drink. We are not allowing children at our event. I am still unsure of the wording that is polite for the invitations. We feel like our event is going to be one big celebration and that it would be a nice time for the parents to have a “date night”. Most of the children that would come to the wedding, if invited, have very close relatives that would love to have the children for the evening. Also, since alcohol will be provided, we feel like it would be inappropriate for the child to have to sit in a cab without a car seat just because the parents had too much to drink.

]]> By: Dennis L. Collins http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-23 Dennis L. Collins Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:32:30 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-23 From a Photographers point of view.... I did a wedding where the brides son (in the terrible 2's) spent the entire wedding laying on the floor kicking and screaming every time he was needed for a photo..... However some of the most precious photos have been the bride or groom with children... Its always a chance you take.... Dennis From a Photographers point of view…. I did a wedding where the brides son (in the terrible 2′s) spent the entire wedding laying on the floor kicking and screaming every time he was needed for a photo….. However some of the most precious photos have been the bride or groom with children… Its always a chance you take….
Dennis

]]> By: Heather http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/2009/11/30/no-children-allowed/comment-page-1/#comment-22 Heather Mon, 01 Feb 2010 15:36:21 +0000 http://www.arkansasbridalcommunity.com/?p=28#comment-22 We LOVE kids and they are a huge part of our big day. We are having a whole area of the reception dedicated to the kids, including a kids buffet, candy bar, and coloring table. We are also providing a baby sitter and kids room for the parents to drop their kids off at after a certain time. Our ceremony will go late into the night and we know most of these kids will not last past 9pm so big pallets of the floor and a movie will be provided for the late part of the evening. We LOVE kids and they are a huge part of our big day. We are having a whole area of the reception dedicated to the kids, including a kids buffet, candy bar, and coloring table. We are also providing a baby sitter and kids room for the parents to drop their kids off at after a certain time. Our ceremony will go late into the night and we know most of these kids will not last past 9pm so big pallets of the floor and a movie will be provided for the late part of the evening.

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